April 2, 2004

• i'm over chasing girls that aren't chasing me. the last 2.5 years of being out on my own has been invaluable. i wouldn't give that independence up for just anyone. she'd have to be nothing less than incredible. and i would have to be just as incredible, in her eyes. the moral of this story:

  trust your feelings--the heart never lies. the brain does that.

  thanks for your words, D.

  "B,

  yikes what a mess!

  from her words, it seems like you guys have something really special going on. But its also clear that she is as confused and scrambly eggs about this as you are. I remember you told me she's in a serious, extremely long-term relationship...and you know how those are.

  All in all, its obvious that you mean a lot to this girl and she means a lot a lot a lot to you. But depending on what you want, I think it might be a good time to let this one go. I mean, things are complicated cuz she has a man, but at the same time if she knew that you were right for her then her choice would be clear, right? Maybe she does know and its just going to take her time to take care of things and figure things out with her man but I feel like no matter who you are with or without at a moment, once you find the person that sets your heart free, you'll do whatever it takes to be with them. Remember that things are not as complicated as we make them out to be. Don't let yourself get all messed up because love is so simple when it is love. Let her go, and when she realizes that you're the one she wants to be with, she will let you know.

  I know that you want to give her the benefit of being innocent of the situation, but she is the only one that really knows whats going on; you don't and neither does her boyfriend. So thats completely unfair. It seems like a situation where she didn't purposefully do anything but that it just developed b/t the two of you, but now that it is in the open...she has a decision to make and it seems like she's staying with her man for now but that she wishes things could be different. But wishing things could be different, and making things different for someone are two very different courses of action.

  In the end, I just want to say, you deserve someone who is willing and wanting to make their lives intertwine with yours in the most intimate way. Thanks for sharing with me and i hope this advice is helpful in even the slightest bit.

  love love love,
  Diane
  "

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